Should I stay home during my domestic helper's first weeks in Hong Kong?
Quick Answer
Yes, if at all possible — especially if children are involved. Use the first one to two weeks to train, observe, and build trust. Show your routines, demonstrate how you want things done, and assess how the helper handles your children before leaving them alone together.
Overview
The first two weeks with a new helper set the tone for the entire two-year contract. If you can take time off work — or have a family member at home — it makes an enormous difference to the helper's confidence, your peace of mind, and the quality of the relationship going forward.
Why Being Present Matters
- Training is hands-on — you can't teach your family's routine via a written list alone
- Trust is earned through observation — watching how the helper interacts with your children tells you more than any interview
- The helper is adjusting too — new country, new home, new family, new food. Your presence provides stability
- Mistakes are caught early — and corrected gently, before habits form
What to Observe
Childcare (if applicable)
- Does she engage with the child or just supervise passively?
- Does she wash hands before preparing food or bottles?
- How does she respond when the child cries or has a tantrum?
- Does she follow your safety instructions (gates, sharp objects, choking hazards)?
Household Work
- Does she take initiative or wait to be told each task?
- Is the quality consistent or does it drop when she thinks nobody's watching?
- Can she follow your cooking instructions?
Communication
- Does she ask questions when unsure, or guess?
- Can she understand your instructions in English (or Cantonese)?
- Is she receptive to feedback?
A Realistic Timeline
- Week 1: Be present full-time. Show everything. Demonstrate, don't just instruct.
- Week 2: Start leaving for short periods (1–2 hours). Observe what happens.
- Week 3–4: Gradually extend your absences. Check in by phone.
- Month 2 onwards: Normal routine, with periodic spot-checks.
Important Notes
- Don't expect perfection in week one — she's learning your specific preferences
- Give feedback daily — small, specific, and kind
- If something doesn't feel right about childcare, trust your instincts and address it immediately
- A good helper will welcome your presence early on — it shows you care about doing this properly
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